I need help interpreting a dream!

Hello again, Ladysally!

If you have the time, I’d really like some help interpreting the dream I had last night!!

Here it is: I’m visiting an apartment I like (very large, with columns, arches, and lots of large windows) that I might want to rent with my friend E., but he’s not sure; he thinks it’s too close to the street. I tell him I don’t want to rent this apartment but a similar one on a higher floor. There are several people, everything is a bit chaotic. The girl who lives there isn’t very receptive, but she gives me an invitation to a performance she’s part of, then she tells me she used to live in the same building as me and that it’s much better here. Then other people arrive, I lose sight of my friend E., and I find myself with this girl and others wandering around the building. Strange things happen; there’s a rumor that people pass into another dimension, and there we see them: they descend a staircase as if sliding and disappear. I’m not sure I want to go; actually, from the start I haven’t been sure I want to be there, but I feel drawn to this girl. I don’t remember the rest of the dream, and there are probably details I don’t remember, but that’s basically it! Weird, right?

What do you think?

Thanks in advance, Ladysally, for taking the time to help me with this interpretation; I’m really looking forward to seeing what it might mean!

Friendship,
See you soon,
Barbarella

Hello Barbarella,
You are busy reflecting on your abilities, your possibilities of …, in your head, and there are very solid and very broad ideas with many possibilities of opening up to the outside world.
You want real change, even a move, but it won’t happen right away; for now, everything is chaotic. You don’t trust yourself or your friend, you’re afraid of being alone, and you rely on him and other people to support you. Here, you are invited to be yourself, not someone who just watches life unfold before their eyes. Yes, it’s strange to do self-work that isn’t always easy, fearing you’ll sink to the deepest parts of yourself and never be able to surface again, especially since you aspire to grand ideals. You’re not very receptive, but you’re still drawn to this invitation, to change, in order to evolve and rise to a higher level, as you wish. Go ahead, listen to your mind; you have openings toward success, change, and a move.
With affection
Ladysally

Hello Ladysally!

I hope you are doing well, and I thank you so much for your interpretation! Yes, you are right; I think I am longing for a change, but for now, I don't really see the possibilities, or I don't have the strength to explore them. I am very afraid of meeting new people; I have nothing to say and I feel worthless. And of course, there is this relationship with my friend whom I still love enormously, and who sometimes, I think, prevents me from reaching out to the outside world. But I feel a change within me; I feel that I need to be myself, to live my life outside of this relationship, and to open myself up to another dimension, because I truly believe that he does not love me (yes, I know he adores me as a friend and he needs me, and I want him to remain present in my life, but I give him too much space—in my head, in my heart, and in my body—I need to find a balance). For now, work helps me rediscover the taste for social encounters, but as I said, I don't have the strength to make real contact yet. Thank you for encouraging me, Ladysally; you are good for me, I really like your approach, and you are very generous. You do me good; I am always very moved when reading your interpretations of my dreams! I really hope I will soon be able to rid myself of this anchor that prevents me from evolving, from moving up to a higher level, and from no longer just watching life unfold before my eyes!

Thank you again for taking the time to reply to me despite the trials and tribulations you are going through!

Affectionately
Barbarella

Good evening Barbarella,
Thank you for your kind response, and I wish you to open up to your possibilities... I am doing well, despite the turmoil and trials.
I wish you good luck and a pleasant evening.
Affectionately
Ladysally

Hello Ladysally!

I hope you're doing well! It's my turn now to need your moral support! Love hurts!

I’m coming back to share a little update about that dream I had (above). In that dream, I forgot to mention that when E. and I lost sight of each other, I saw him leaving with a Female. Well, here’s the thing: a few days ago, I learned that he had reconnected with an ex (whom we had once met on the street while we were walking together), and they started a relationship. He told me that he has mixed feelings, that things aren’t always going well, that he’s not quite sure, that she is much more involved than he is, that he no longer feels anything, that he may not be capable of loving, and so on… (I did a reading with The Magician, who saw this rival, and he told me that he believes it’s not serious between them, that our friendship will survive, and that it’s not over between the two of us…) But the fact remains that he continues to see her; it’s been three weeks now, and I’m hurting. I no longer know if I want to be here, even though he insists on telling me that he is present for me and that he doesn’t want this to change our friendship. I just don’t know anymore.
At the same time, I started working (short-term temporary contracts) and I realize that I will have almost no time for him for the next two weeks, and it’s like a whirlwind of activities (as in my dream, I feel as if I’m being drawn toward something or somewhere where I’m not sure I want to be). At the same time, it’s a chance to take some distance from him and let him live his “love” without him feeling guilty because I’m depressed.
Anyway, all of this is overwhelming me; I feel like I’ve lost him, and it hurts. I feel lost and I want to disappear. But I will survive, and we’ll probably manage to stay friends if that blonde isn’t too jealous. It will take time before I’m able to grieve the end of our relationship with him. I love him too much, and he no longer sees me that way. He prefers an ex from fifteen years ago, with whom he shares only memories and an uncertain desire, over me, with whom he has a deep connection.

What do you think, my beautiful ladysally? Should I disappear from his life so that I will truly know the depth of his feelings for me—if he makes an effort to see me again (if he doesn’t, at least I will have already started to detach myself from him)—or should I face reality and continue to be his friend, accepting that I will have to share my place with his new flame?

Sorry for possibly wasting your time with my stories, but I needed to talk about them and I thought of you, lady!

I have the feeling that this dream was somewhat premonitory, as it was only a few days before he saw her again!

Perhaps all the dreams I’ve had over the past month are premonitory, but is it possible that a premonitory dream doesn’t come true because we do something to prevent it from coming true?

Thank you very much, ladysally
I hope you’ll have the time to read all this and reply to me. You don’t have to write me a novel if you’re short on time, but a little word of encouragement would help me get through it!
affectionately,
Barbarella

Good evening Barbarella2,
First of all, thank you for caring about me, and Lady says she is doing fine and that she is not dead. Yes, I know that love hurts, and even hurts a lot; that is true love, without deceit or pretense. I know it, and I am suffering.
We humans need one another just as much as the links in a chain. You helped me, and now it’s my turn to give you a hand. Believe me, I’m doing it wholeheartedly and with the generosity that defines me and is reflected in my username.
The dream was prophetic; it was said, it was written, that he would leave with another, that it was your destiny, and that you would maintain your friendship with one another. It is clear that if it falls apart on both sides—between him and her—as I was saying, you would be led to start over on new foundations. You see, he left with an ex, and he will come back to you, who has become an ex. But don’t worry, nothing is eternal: neither friendship, nor feelings, nor beauty, nor pain. We humans know how to overcome our suffering little by little, and with time our wounds heal. Right now you are suffering because you feel he is slipping away, but you will see, you will accept this idea, and when you too, on your side, have a new friend, life will seem even more beautiful. Do not forget that for the past two years it was just friendship between you and him; let him live his life and you live yours. See him again as a friend; if your friendship and your love are stronger, he will come, will approach you, and words will not be necessary to tell you that he made a mistake. He himself says that he does not know how to love, and that no one is around right now. These feelings have become blurred; let him search for himself, find himself. Yes, attend to your affairs, let time do its work, and do not rush anything! Live your life, him his and you yours, as in the past, since there was no longer a sexual relationship. If you can tolerate the presence of that blonde, stay as friends and be patient until it falls apart or passes. Otherwise, if you cannot stand seeing them, let them live and turn the page, and do not harm yourself unnecessarily, my dear. Life is life, and you deserve better. If he has not understood that life is not about his point of view, and that he will lose a lot by going down the path he has chosen, let him know your feelings and your sadness, and tell him that your door is open. Do not insist, because if he loves you, he will come to you!
No, my dear, you're not bothering me with your stories. We each have our own story; you listen and support me, and I listen to your story and support you. Don't worry—if you feel like talking, crying, or even breaking things, go ahead. Don't hold back; let your feelings out and set yourself free!!!
I wish you a good evening.
With affection
Ladysally

Thank you, ladysally, thank you so much!

You allowed me to cry; I knew you would be honest. I am still crying; every time you speak to me, I cry because it touches me deeply. I think I need to face the truth; I must let go. I think I will let this day, which has been too raw, pass and see if I still want to send him that letter. I feel like I have given him everything and that I have nothing left. He drained me and is leaving with the pot of gold.

Thanks again for your support, I’m completely overwhelmed by what’s happening to me and I really appreciate your help. I feel like I need a shoulder to lean on, for someone to hold me, yes I want to scream, to break everything, but I hope it will pass.

Good evening to you too

Thank you again

Hello Barbarella2,
Yeah, sure, take it off your shoulders, don't stay alone, go out and see some friends, let your hair down, and if you need me to confide in and if you're okay with that, I'll give you my email address.
Kisses, Ladysally

Hello, lady!

Things are a bit better this morning. I played music with some friends yesterday and it did me a world of good. I think I won't send him that letter, at least not for now. I'm going to let some time pass, see how I cope with all of this, try to find myself again, and get it out of my system. The best thing that could happen is that, by being less present, he realizes how important I am to him. The worst is that he realizes I'm not important to him, but at least then I'll already be detached and my life will be filled with other things besides him (anyway, I give him way too much space, so much that I have none left for myself). In any case, that's how I see things this morning, but it changes every day! You know that girl in my dream who told me she used to live in my building and that it's much better here? Well, she was right, because the building represents my current life or situation, and the new building represents a possibility of improving my situation.
In this dream, there was no emotion regarding E. I saw him quietly slip away with a girl and I stopped thinking about it; I was drawn elsewhere and experiencing something else, a more active social life and a passage into another dimension. Well, let's hope it happens that way, naturally. He knows I still have feelings for him; he probably doesn't imagine how deep and intense they are, but he knows, so let him do whatever he wants with that! In one of the many recent discussions we've had about the sincerity of our friendship, he told me he wasn't trying to get closer to me to protect me from himself, that he had already hurt me enough in the past, and that he was much more faithful and stable in friendship than in love. Maybe he told me that just so the pill would go down easier, so he wouldn't have to say he doesn't love me anymore. Whatever. If he wants to preserve our friendship, all the better; at least, he cares. Let him explore other horizons; we'll see if friendship is that important!

Thank you so much again for being there for me even though we don't know each other; you have no idea how much you've helped me! Thank you for your email! If I feel the need, I will reach out to you; it's very generous of you!
Kiss
Barbarella

Hello again, Ladysally!

I’d really like some help interpreting this little dream I had last night, if you’re up for it!

Here’s the dream: I’m lying in a bed in a room that I don’t think is mine, and then I feel like someone is in the house. I look at the door of my room, but there’s no door, just curtains that are half open. Then a man comes in and opens the curtains; he doesn’t come in, he stays in the doorway and watches me while shaving. I pretend to be asleep. I don’t know this man; he has medium-length brown hair and is tall and thin. I think to myself, damn, I forgot to lock the door before going to bed. I’m not really scared, but I wonder who he is and what he’s doing there!

Here, if you could help me, I’d be happy! Otherwise, it’s fine!

Take care of yourself, lady!

Big kisses!
Barbarella

Good evening, my Barbie,
I’ll take care of your dream tomorrow, if you’d like.
With affection
Ladysally

Hello Barbarella,
There are still latent feelings present in your psyche and in your soul’s abode. There is also a slight opening toward a transition from one state to another; the curtains are being drawn back, and the mysteries with them. You are still waiting, but there is this aspect—a part of you—that you want to hide, to obscure; you are trying to block the path of your evolution, yet you no longer truly have that fear that used to gnaw at you in the past.
It is your masculine animus side, your hidden side!!
With affection
Ladysally