Why are people stupid and mean?

Hello,
You're going to say that I'm always complaining, but when I see the malice and stupidity of people, it makes me sick.
At school, there was a pregnant woman who was telling me about the baby she’s expecting in December. She said her baby might be a Sagittarius, and I told her that was great since it’s my sign. Then a bitch next to her walked over and literally told me, “No, if Sagittarians are like you, that’s not a good sign.” I replied that Sagittarians can be kind to kind, decent people and mean to idiots. I don’t know why she took it the wrong way.
Now, my son has been at school for two years, and I interact politely with people, but it is true that a woman who sent me a mean message last year was met with my bad temper. The only thing people seem to do is remember that; otherwise, everything is fine. I take some jokes now and then, but there comes a point where I am fed up with being insulted in a polite way. When I mentioned suicide to you, that is also part of the reason. In total, I come home quite angry but keep silent. I talk to my husband, who, excuse the expression, told me to shut up, not to say hello to anyone. I cannot do that; I was raised to be polite, and in the morning I say hello at least fifty times, and that annoys him.
I don't understand the attitude of people or my husband,
And I don't know if I explained myself well enough for you to understand. I feel like asking for a transfer to another school, but I'll need to find a good excuse, and I'm also afraid of upsetting my son if I change his school!
Why do people form false impressions of others before getting to know them, and why are they so stupid and mean? Couldn't we live in peace without criticizing anyone, and let time pass before attacking people? Long live the deserted islands.
I hope I haven't offended you, but I needed to talk about the human stupidity that I don't understand.
Véronique Olivette

Jacques Brel said, “There are no bad people, only stupid people.”

To answer your subject.

Good luck to you

I was thinking about your subject title.

I read your message. I don't think changing schools is a solution. It's a bit excessive.

Don't you think that's a bit excessive? All of this?

Tom,
I don't see anything exceptional about wanting to change schools, but I wouldn't do it for my son. However, if you could hear everything I hear, I swear you would leave faster than you think. But you're right, and from this day on, I will keep my emotional turmoil to myself.
Good evening

Perhaps we should try to understand the reasons behind their behavior. Invite a person?

Hello, I am taking the liberty of responding to this topic. Sometimes in life, people are unhappy and overconfident. It is possible that this person who made remarks to you is someone who lacks self-confidence. I know very well that this has upset you, but tell yourself this: when you are in a position to say that what was said is nothing but dust, tell yourself this! They have only worse things than them.
Ignore what most people say out of pure malice, and you will see that they are unhappy.

Hi Olivette, I agree with Tom: why such an excessive reaction? Taking your son out of school over this... don't you find that truly excessive? Why do you react so strongly to differing opinions?

Best regards,

Sincerely

Moreover, Anna is also right: those who hurt others with their words have often been hurt themselves… sometimes it would be easier to try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes… even with words that hurt? To look into why they hurt… etc.

Best regards/Rolande

I think so too. Those who hurt others do so as a form of self-protection, don't they? Or out of unconscious revenge?

1/ Do they need them to also be in pain → do they have less pain?
2/ Do they need to hurt, and is their injury less severe?
3/ Being hurt makes people more vulnerable and aggressive → more suspicious and hurtful?
4/ to be hurt and think less about what they say and do?
5/ To be hurt and withdraw?
6/ Being hurt and telling yourself that every wound or pain makes you stronger! (difficult but the best) :‘( and it requires a long journey of acceptance and forgiveness :‘(
7/ Not letting others hurt you, or considering them as invisible glass? That they can always “stir up the air” and it won’t affect you? – Like… how we used to say in middle school, “Go on, I’m fascinated” (when in fact, not at all – quite the opposite).
8/ To be hurt and show a more human side by helping others rather than pushing them down even further?

Apart from that, some people are born smarter than others.
Just as some people have bad souls and others have good ones.
The police for the killers… aren’t they talking about a special gene that drives them to commit crimes?

To discuss… or to debate:

Hello everyone, I agree with Claudilac’s remarks. I also think that people are mean and jealous; to feel better about themselves, they make comparisons to identify themselves. Judging in this way reassures them, as they tell themselves, “At least I’m not like that,” and they feel better. My advice to Olivette is that if you respond to these verbal aggressions, you will be the one who suffers the most, which is apparently the case. This feeling likely comes from the fear of not being accepted or appreciated (which touches us all). If you replace this fear with love, you will see that you no longer feel so affected. I have a small exercise that works quite well, because I am also very sensitive to the meanness of others, which can sometimes be difficult. When someone is mean or aggressive toward you, try to see why; what is this person trying to express? Most of the time, meanness reflects that person’s suffering and has nothing to do with you. And to finish, do not forget that everything we say to others is actually what we are. That is why we must be careful about what we say and how we behave, and it is truly stupid to judge. You should also have sympathy for these people who are so far from themselves and who are also very unhappy. I hope I have provided you with some support. I wish you good luck. See you soon.

Do you really have to be so childish and irresponsible?
You don’t need to change your son’s school for your selfish reasons. Your husband is right; even if education suggests otherwise, you shouldn’t talk to just anyone, because, as you so aptly put it, “people are mean.”

I find this message just a little too aggressive.
Even though I agree with the substance.