Oh, the family, what a family

Good evening Josy,

My dear Josy, I am sorry for you too that you have experienced the same things with your family.

Every time I told her, "Listen, I'm sad about this or that," she called me a sourpuss and said I wasn't a considerate person, meaning that it was still my fault.

The exchange of posts opened my eyes a little, harshly, yet truthfully. She has never helped me, and if she did, I paid for it in one form or another. One moment she swears by me, and the next she invites me and plays dirty tricks on me. It’s a game of cruelty for her.

If you have any advice to give me, don’t hesitate; I’m giving you a free hand. That’s exactly what I want: to stop believing her, to stop playing her game, and to create some distance without it hurting me.

I ran away once and didn't give any news for three years; if you only knew how happy I was. Unfortunately, my happiness ended when she found me and I told her where I was living, and she cried again, and since I'm a good person, I followed her again.

I want to stop having her, stop being sad for her; if I don’t see her, I see acquaintances who stir everything up and I have to give explanations. And they don’t understand my behavior and they think I’m jealous.

Good evening Josy,

Yes, I have to do a lot of work for that and fill my head with dark thoughts, such as that she is not worth being around, and I have to end up hating her to feel better.

Often, when I stopped talking to her, she would cry and cling to me to apologize, and I would tell myself that she had been touched by the grace of God, but it rarely lasted; her true nature quickly took the upper hand.

Thank you again for your patience and your friendship, my dear. Yes, I was truly sad, and it all really came from the depths of my heart and my soul. I don't really think it's courage, but rather rage and pain. I don't think I'll be okay tomorrow, because next week we have a family wedding, and I don't know whether I should stay home or face it by going, in which case it will be a complete mess.

Among us Muslims, family is of great importance, so as the youngest, we must respect the elders; she is no exception to the rule.

Okay, the message has been delivered, thank you for that. I wish you a good evening, my dear Josy.
Best regards
Ladysally

Hello Ladysally,

First of all, I apologize for not being able to reply to your two posts; I’m a bit overbooked at the moment.

Everything you describe repeatedly shows the sad reality that your sister seems to be a very skilled actress to achieve her goals with you, so my conclusion is that she is the archetype of a manipulator.

I think you will need to be brave to find the solutions that allow you to escape his clutches. If you need to revisit the past decision to distance yourself in order to feel better, choose that option or make it transparent so that it no longer holds power over you.

If you decide to go to this family wedding, I wish you good luck and a good day.

Big kisses

Hello Josy,

Please reply to me despite the overbooking. Take your time, my dear Josy, I know and I understand you.
The best thing to do is to do the same thing as in the past: deny it and deny it completely.
Yesterday she was there and we didn't talk. I don't want to leave tonight.
Just like that, the cold will settle between us and never warm up again. :-[
Best regards
Ladysally :-*