Hello Ortega,
I have read the various exchanges regarding your issue in the “Question, clairvoyance” section. A first thought crosses my mind and tells me that if you feel the need to talk about it and are questioning this relationship, especially since this person borrowed money from you, it is because deep down you realize that something abnormal is happening.
First of all, as Lemagicien pointed out in one of his replies, three months is far too short to form a real opinion about a relationship. You have not had enough time to get to know this man. A new romantic relationship goes through three stages. First, getting to know each other, then discovering each other, and, as the saying goes, if there is a connection. In my view, given the youth of your relationship, you are still at the getting-to-know-each-other stage. It is at the "if there is a connection" stage that one can potentially envision building a life together. This project can be considered after about one or two years. In the past, a couple would go through the engagement phase, which allowed both the woman and the man time to discover each other; if their love and harmony were progressing well, they could then make their love concrete through a union. It is a bit of a shame that we have forgotten these values, which ultimately allowed us to protect ourselves.
That is why it does not seem reasonable to me to lend money to someone I barely know.
What bothers me about this man's behavior is how a man of integrity, who should have respect for the woman he has recently been seeing, can ask her to lend him money. That is not done.
Furthermore, before deciding to build a life together, one must be certain that the person with whom one will share their life is trustworthy and honest. Therefore, given his lack of respect toward you—allegedly not realizing the discomfort he causes by not repaying the money you lent him—can we grant him any credibility? In my view, I would not place any trust in him, at least not until he proves that he can be trusted. His attitude is not honest. Since you lent him that sum of money, he should have immediately set up a monthly repayment plan and started paying you back.
In one of your responses to Lemagicien, you said, “this gentleman is going much faster than me… he is a psychic… so he sees before me.” That is not your exact wording, but I wanted to remind you of the meaning of that phrase. What do you mean by psychic? Does this man have gifts, and does he make a profession of them? Besides, you say he is a businessman. If that is the case, why did he turn to you for a financial loan? For this kind of thing, there are plenty of banks and credit institutions to negotiate a loan with, especially if he is a businessman…
Perhaps through your future responses, I could form a precise idea of this uncomfortable situation, although I already have a rough one; in that case, it may become easier for me to help you concretely.
All the same, I cannot advise you strongly enough to have this gentleman sign a promissory note specifying the exact amount of the loan and the repayment method, including the monthly repayment amount. Once he has signed the document, make a copy and give it to a trusted person. A question comes to mind: when you lent him this money, did you hand him the cash or did you write him a check? If he agrees to sign this promissory note without any hesitation, you will be able to see whether his feelings for you are sincere. If you wish, I can send you a template for a promissory note via private message.
Beware of Ortega; it seems to me that this man is a bit manipulative. At first glance, I don’t have a good feeling about him. I hope from the bottom of my heart that I’m wrong, but his attitude doesn’t allow me to have positive thoughts.
I truly am sorry and distressed about what you are going through. The beginning of my post may have seemed a bit harsh and moralistic, but it is my moral duty as a friend to help you and try to find the right path that will allow you to get out of this bad situation. As for the loan, I need to be pragmatic so that we can find the best solution together and so that you can be reimbursed quickly.
Good luck, and you can count on me; I will do everything in my power to help you. To get you out of this situation, you need to think with your head, not your heart.
I am thinking of you
See you soon, kisses