Love story

Good evening,

I would like to know if my new love story will be lasting.
17 - 12 - 9

Thank you very much!
Have a good weekend!
Darlow

Hello Darlow,

It is a relationship filled with hope, but it seems to me that dialogue or physical contact is difficult to establish.
My advice is to try to be more open with each other if you want your new romance to last.

Have a good weekend!
The magician.

Hello Lemagicien,

We talk a lot, but he has some issues related to his ex.
Do you think he will manage to give me a real place, without being afraid that I will repeat what she did to him?

15 - 12 - 11

Thanks!

Hello Darlow,

I assume you must know the story he went through with his ex, so it’s up to you not to repeat the same pattern, namely jealousy, possessiveness, and authority.
In short, he’s a man who doesn’t like feeling squeezed like a lemon, because when he’s forced to do things, he shuts down in a kind of refusal or rebellion against any authority.
If he truly loves you, he will manage to move on from his ex and give you the place you deserve, so be patient and confident in love!

Have a good day
The magician.

Good evening Lemagicien,

Yes, I know the story, and logically, I do what needs to be done to not end up like her (though I don’t really need to force it, I’m very different).
My question was precisely to find out whether you saw it bearing fruit, or whether you still saw it as a distant prospect.
Does our relationship have a future? That is, in essence, my question.

I'll give you the numbers again if needed: 13 - 22 - 14

Thank you and have a good weekend!

Hello Darlow,

He will still remain somewhat distant, but I think that is just his nature and personality; however, a closer bond will develop between you two. So, in response, I would say that yes, your relationship will take shape, but be patient…

Have a good weekend!
The magician.

Thank you once again, it gives me hope again!
Is there any way you can tell me how long I can hope for an emotional rapprochement between us?
Have a good weekend!

Hello Darlow,

Valentine's Day is coming up soon, or I hope that a rapprochement will take place between the two of you around that time, at the latest early spring, but the advice is to stay in contact.

Happy Sunday
The magician.

Thanks for your reply! I hope to be able to give you positive feedback soon!
Have a good weekend!

Hello Lemagicien,

I’m getting back to you with an initial update. As you told me, a rapprochement is taking place; I find him more open toward me, and he talks to me more than before. He’s had a very busy schedule lately, so we haven’t seen each other much, but we’ve been in regular contact, and even though he doesn’t talk about the future, feelings, or anything like that, I can clearly feel when I’m in his arms that he is sincere in his behavior.
So I have good hope for the future, but I would like to know if he will make an effort to find more time so that we can see each other more regularly? In short, do you see a more sustained relationship for the coming months? 7 - 14 - 6

Thank you and have a good weekend!

Hello Darlow,

Thank you for your clairvoyance feedback!
What matters is what you feel when you are in his arms, that sense of well-being and sincerity you feel around him, which is a sign that mutual feelings are indeed present.
It’s true that he has busy schedules, but know that he will do his best to see you more regularly in the positive continuation of your relationship.
Feelings don’t always need grand speeches or promises, but concrete actions and presence!

Have a good weekend!
The magician.

Super!
Thank you.
See you soon!

Hello Lemagicien,

I really think he's going to drive me crazy!

While everything was going well, he starts to doubt again. He adores me, finds me nice, pretty, funny, intelligent, etc. BUT since he doesn't envision a real romantic relationship, he thinks it might be better for both of us to stop rather than hurt each other later, once we're truly attached.

I find this completely ridiculous and I don't understand the concept of complicating what could be simple, to be honest…
I told him to take a few days to think about the situation and figure out what he really wants. I’m not asking for a committed relationship, but I think we could keep things as they are now and see where it leads, rather than ending things out of fear of the harm we might cause each other.

He looks lost; I hope these aren’t lame excuses. As I told him, if he doesn’t feel any attraction or doesn’t like spending time with me, he should just say it outright, but he says that’s not the case.

So that’s where I stand: I’m waiting to see what he decides—whether he’ll be willing to take the plunge and continue with me, or whether he’ll shut the door on me for good.
Can you tell me what you see, please?
9 - 6 - 15

Thank you very much, and have a good weekend.

Hello,

Well, I’m coming back to give some feedback and ask another question!

I am completely disgusted. He finally told me yesterday that he prefers to end our relationship because he doesn't feel ready to truly commit. He says that I appeal to him and that he loves me a lot, but he wants to love me properly, not "half-heartedly," and he feels that we need a break in order to perhaps start on the right foot in a relationship together in the future.

I don't know what to think—is he sincere and completely out of his mind, or is this a "kind" way to break up while trying not to hurt me?

Can you tell me whether you see this breakup as final, or whether we will get back together in a few months?
Here are my numbers: 3 - 8 - 22

Thank you and have a good Sunday.

Hello Darlow,

When we love someone, finding them nice, pretty, funny, and intelligent, I don't think we envision ending up hurting ourselves later. I agree with you, because his remarks are indeed totally stupid, especially since you're not even asking him for a couple's life. He likes spending time with you, but it's him who can't find his bearings. In short, he can't put words to his inner discomfort; he behaves like a kid who quickly gets bored of what he's given as a gift, in short, you giving him all your Affection and patience. He likes to hold you in his arms, caress you, maybe make love to you, but here you have to make him understand that you're not his thing, his toy! Because the first reading announces, above all, a desire or attraction on his part for the sexual aspect, given that he tells you he likes you, loves you a lot, wants to truly love you, but currently loves you "halfway." This gives me the unpleasant impression that, without meaning to, he is still playing a bit with your feelings. His "maybe" about a future desire to start fresh with you amounts to the remarks of someone who imagines that you will wait for him eternally, or who imagines it all as a given, keeping you on a leash like a little fish. Having dared to say all that, yes, there is a kind of sincerity but also a lack of awareness, because these are nonetheless remarks that hurt you. Through this new reading, I see the instability of the character in terms of personality, but no definitive break with him in sight, so I think he will still make back-and-forth trips, changing his mind but unable or having difficulty settling down or making concrete choices.

Happy Sunday
The magician.

Thanks for your quick reply!

I wasn't expecting any of this; I'm really shaken.

We discussed a lot yesterday, and things are clear: he’s complicating something that could be simple. He’s so scared that he’d rather ruin everything now than take the plunge, which really pisses me off; I don’t get it! I hope he realizes how stupid he’s being and gets his head straight!

He knows I won't wait for him if he doesn't make up his mind quickly; I've been clear with him: I'm happy with him and I want us to try something, but I won't accept being kept on the hook like this. I want him to be sure of himself, so basically, it's up to him to wake up before I stop being in a good mood about him.

On the other hand, he also told me very clearly that he does not envision us seeing each other “just for sex” because I asked him about it at one point, but no. He wants us to be together for real, provided he can come to terms with the idea that he may not necessarily suffer, or not at all. He does not want half-measures; on the one hand, I tell myself that’s a good thing! He could have kept me on the back burner to have sex from time to time and not say anything about his doubts.

On the other hand, you say that you don't see a definitive break, does that mean you see us continuing together? I mean, are we going to have a period where we won't see each other, which could lead to a resumption later, or do you see us continuing to see each other from time to time right now, without any further commitment?
I am taking the liberty of giving you three numbers again: 11 - 10 - 2
I'm sorry for pressing with all my questions, but it seemed to be getting back on track, so I don't understand anything anymore! Yet I don't get the impression that he doesn't care about me; I can tell he's sincere but completely lost in his head. I hope I'm not mistaken about him!

Thank you so much again for your patience!

Hello Darlow,

Even though you are upset about all of this, there is still something positive: you continue to talk and discuss, which means that communication between you has not been broken and remains present despite your differences.
That’s also why I told you that I don’t see a definitive break between the two of you.
To do it right, we should try to understand where these fears come from; it’s probably due to his past!
He has a naive, slightly childish expression of sincerity, because it’s true that he could keep you on your toes, as you say, without having to talk to you about his doubts.
For my part, I see you continuing together despite the current headache, even though he is not really opening up to you.

It was a pleasure, and have a good day.
The magician.

Thank you, Lemagicien,

I'll keep you posted.

Happy Sunday.

Hello Lemagicien,

I'm reaching out to you for a quick update!
So here’s the thing, since his decision, we’ve been in fairly regular contact, but to be honest, it’s mostly him who reaches out.
I can tell he doesn't want to lose me, but I have to admit that a purely friendly relationship doesn't interest me, so I keep a bit of distance.

What do you see for the coming weeks/months, please?
11-2-6

Thank you and have a good start to the week!

Hello Darlow,

He doesn't want to lose you, but since he isn't ready for a two-person couple life either, it remains in the realm of a friendly relationship.
For the coming weeks, since you want more than a friendly relationship, there are updates that need to be initiated with him in a frank discussion, and you need to let him know that you need him to make up his mind and no longer beat around the bush.
Gather your courage and dare to tell him what you truly expect from him beyond this friendship.

Have a good week
The magician.