Max, 11 years old, suffering...

Hello Eliana,

On Josy's advice (see the message “To help my son be happy”), do you have any advice for me on how to handle Max, who is in the middle of a crisis: he is unhappy, feels useless, doesn't like school, and is not interested in anything except playing football with his friends and video games. He also really likes to read, but he is very closed off to change and new activities. He says he hates music and anything related to art or physical expression, but I can clearly see that it is a blockage! He misses his dad; whenever he sees him, he always comes back refreshed (he only sees him twice a month). I have the impression that anything coming out of my mouth has no value because I am a woman and he needs a male role model. We have entered a vicious circle where he feels that I am desperately trying to make him enjoy life again, but he feels my impatience too much—it's a lost cause! I think I need to let go first, but then what??

Max was born on December 26, 1994, at 4:20, in Caen. Capricorn rising sign, Scorpio rising sign if I’m not mistaken.

Just so you know, I’m breaking up with my partner. I think I’ll leave the day after tomorrow!
Max doesn't seem affected by this separation. All I know is that at the beginning of my relationship with Pierre (01/06/1945, uncertain time, probably around 10 a.m.), he had said to his best friend: "This guy is going to take everything from me"... I just found out about this...
I have the feeling that there is a mirror effect between Max and me. For example, when I first met Pierre, he told me: “One day someone will rape you, take everything you have, and that someone is me” (I’m shortening it, but it really was that terrible!) He tried to make me believe that “take” meant “learn,” but after five years, the toll has been heavy! Psychological distress, money problems, this guy drained me in more ways than one. Today, I think I’ve freed myself from him; it’s very recent, and I can’t wait to be completely out of the house and have no more ties to him.

In short, I was personally born on February 3, 1968, at 6:05 PM in Caen, with Aquarius on the rising sign and Leo on the rising sign.

Thank you for your attention,

Isabelle

Hello Isabelle,

I’ll make a note of that and come back to Max’s theme later. That way, we can see what his personality is like and why he’s experiencing these blocks!

friendship

Eliana

Hello Isabelle,

Here is a brief overview of Max's natal chart,

He is indeed a Capricorn with a Scorpio rising sign.

Capricorn symbolizes resolution, concentration, and the paternal principle. It needs solitude and meditation, it climbs slowly toward the peaks, and it is a cold passionate.
Adolescence and childhood are not the best periods of one's life. Impatient, he tolerates his limitations poorly; he knows he will have to reject the unnecessary and focus on the essential in order to reach that maturity, which is the period that suits him best. He is likely to feel more comfortable in his own skin from the age of thirty!!
The Capricorn restrains their impulses and masters them. They are a sensitive and passionate person, yet cold in their approach. They are a paradoxical being.
Her rising sign in Scorpio will make her dig deep, seek answers to mysteries, and it will manifest at the level of the unconscious.
The Scorpion is a sign of profound transformation, of inner struggle in order to live this fundamental reality of life linked to death and destruction. It experiences the anguish of existence and feels violent impulses related to this anguish.
He rejects, he destroys, he is reborn, and he analyzes the phases of his evolution.

This is a preview of his or her natal sign with the rising sign.

Pluto in Scorpio in the 1st house.
A dual nature, division, a need for new things but an extremely difficult, sometimes brutal, inability to let go of the old.
A highly capable nature to develop; people influenced by this configuration are full of mysteries and secrets, difficult to access. These individuals are deviant, rough, suspicious, and skeptical. They possess an unbreakable will and mental strength.
He may feel inferior. He may be prone to headaches.
He has a compulsive, attractive, magnetic personality that controls and has a tendency toward domination. He has a powerful impact on people.

Venus in Scorpio in the 1st house.
Presence of mystery, intensity, and even a subtle hint of darkness. Proud, passionate, and seductive, he is destined for deep desires, especially emotional ones. In the best case, he can be deeply devoted and intimate. In the worst, he can be jealous and vindictive. He may be capable of isolating himself behind an invisible screen.
He is warm, sociable, and handsome.

I'll come back later for the rest.

friendship

Eliana

Continuation of Max's natal chart,

MERCURY in CAPRICORN in the 2nd House.
Character: serious, thoughtful, penetrating, and patient. Suited to the pursuit of meticulous research, the study of mathematics, philosophy, and generally any science requiring meticulousness. Practical sense is well developed. Sensitivity is rather weak, and selfishness is quite frequent.
Health: Beware of catching a cold.

Neptune in Capricorn in the 3rd House.
It seems to favor reflection and concentration, and to provoke a happy blend between Capricorn's practical sense and Neptunian intuition. It would therefore be an interesting position from a realizational standpoint.
He is ambitious, pragmatic, and he regrets the old values of the past.
He is gullible, imaginative, and highly sensitive to the implications of language. Persuasive but easily distracted, he will absorb knowledge and has a gift for poetry. But he can be credulous and he can be wrong.
Idealistic, romantic, and often lacking in realism. Risks of disappointments, deceit, and cunning in relationships with others.
Intuitive, emotional, and sensitive, he indulges in dreams, poetry, music, or artificial paradises!! Mediumistic talents. The native likes to travel on water or live near it. Brothers and sisters may symbolize the failure of certain illusions or represent the source of an evolution.

Uranus in Capricorn in the 3rd House.
Capricorn’s reflection and Uranus’s originality can indicate a remarkable intellect for all tasks of innovation or even meticulous research. Capricorn’s ambition is accentuated by this position, but the affective side seems rather weak and selfishness quite frequent.
Monitor the skin, which may be very sensitive to all skin diseases.
Spirit of independence, rebellion, and revolt. A dissenter. Seeks freedom, friends, and ideals. Tolerates social inequalities, racism, and hypocrisy rather poorly. Marginal, eccentric, modernist. Loves the unexpected, seeks out original subjects to study them in a self-taught manner.
Watch out for speed (higher), electricity, lightning…

Saturn in Pisces in the 4th House.
It appears to mitigate the inconsistency of the sign, but the hesitations seem to persist. The native seems somewhat misanthropic, yet is inclined to help and do good more through reasoning than through compassion.
Affective frustration in childhood. Early maturity, innate wisdom. Tendency toward melancholy and sadness.
If the native wishes to avoid suffering from loneliness at the end of their life, they must prepare and organize themselves according to their character and sensitivities. They must not isolate themselves or unnecessarily clear the ground around them.
Although family is extremely important to him, he feels separated from it, and may even be distant from a particular parent!!! He needs to make efforts to find ways to interact successfully with his family members (or simply to understand them). Moreover, having his own home will be a significant source of identity and security for him.

Here are the planets in houses at the time of birth,
I will do the planetary aspects and come back to write them in later.

friendship

Eliana

Hello Isabelle,

I now present to you the aspects of Max's natal chart.

Sun square Moon:
His conscious mind will desire one thing while his subconscious will yearn for something else. Therefore, it is possible that he will be very frustrated, sensitive, and experience feelings of insecurity, along with a tendency to sabotage himself.
Difficulty in making a choice, indecision; weak will. Lack of imagination, little luck.
Difficulty in forming sympathies and relationships.
Family troubles, divorce, parental separation.
Power dynamics between him and women in general. Poorly controlled emotions.

SUN conjunction MERCURY;
Indicates a nervous, quick, and active mind.
Talents for writing and commerce.

MOON square MERCURY;
Intelligence, reflection, and analysis are difficult to combine with the other part of the brain, the more artistic part, which governs the worlds of imagination and emotion.
Emotionality, creative imagination, and the unconscious cannot express themselves as freely as they would like. There are sometimes long hesitations before aligning with common sense and reason.
Difficult communication with the mother and women.
Near-pathological shyness.
He reacts quickly but is often anxious. Gifted with an unconventional mind, he often feels that people do not understand him, and he is very sensitive to criticism.

Mars square Jupiter.
Agitated and extravagant, he has energy to spare, but he struggles to control it. Moderation is not his strong suit.
He often acts in defiance of laws or morality. He rebels against conservative ideas.
There is a strong likelihood that he is in conflict with his father and everything he represents. Yet, as he grows older, being part of a prosperous bourgeois circle seems increasingly ideal to him.
If he wants to succeed, he will learn to be less impulsive and vindictive, and more understanding, protective, and civic-minded.
Likewise, he will have every reason to listen to his father's point of view if he wants to understand the rationale behind his principles. Confrontation is not the solution.
Monitoring your liver...

Mars opposite Saturn;
Impatience is wearing him down; he feels stuck and frustrated, and it is not easy for him to control his moods. Moreover, he may feel that he has enemies, and dealing with authorities (parental, legal, etc.) is far too frequent in his life, keeping him in a state of constant nervousness. This can be a difficult aspect, but there are positive examples.
This position indicates a cold, dry, harsh, authoritarian, brutal, and even violent character. A predisposition to accidents, violent sports, and fractures, particularly in the mountains.

Mars square Pluto.
He has intense passions but struggles to control them. Although he has a tendency to sabotage himself, he also possesses impressive resilience and the ability to change his negative behavior to get what he wants: power…
He puts his father on a pedestal, but he will not remain there forever. What is his true role? What lessons can he draw from this?
Rebellious and negative mindset, watch out for your surroundings.

Jupiter square Saturn;
A fierce struggle between the forces of expansion and those of restriction keeps him in a state of constant imbalance;
The agitation, dissatisfaction, inappropriateness, and tension may torment him. On a deep level, he fears that his judgment may not be reliable, and his confidence suffers as a result.
Lack of patience, pessimistic temperament, sadness, and lack of will. Expansion hindered by obstacles and delays. Lack of initiative.

Jupiter conjunction Pluto.
Occult protection through a belief, a faith, a religion. Assets following a death.
When these two planets are side by side, it becomes a powerful agent of change, within himself if not elsewhere.

URANUS conjunct NEPTUNE.
Anyone with this aspect will likely have an inventive and intuitive approach to change, as well as a compassionate and sensitive nature.
This situation fosters the development of intuition, original ideas, a desire to explore, and magnetic power.

Here is Isabelle, I hope this theme will help you better understand Max.
If you have any other questions, don't hesitate to ask; I'll help you if I can.

friendship

Eliana