When love eludes you...

Hello

I feel terribly alone… my love life is a permanent failure… I get taken for a ride… I give and give, only to be betrayed in the end… It’s sad because I respect human beings and I try to act as correctly as possible in my life, and the result is… suffering, the feeling that I don’t exist for anyone and that I don’t deserve to be loved… It’s hard to say this, but I tell myself that I must surely be uninteresting… or maybe I drive them away… I don’t know.
I met Christophe a year ago, who wasn't available... I waited... He always made me believe that he loved me and would leave her... and the result is that today he betrayed me... They broke up (at least that's what he tells me) but he regrets it and tells me he was an idiot because he loved her!!! How can someone play with someone's feelings like that... I am loyal, I waited because I was sincere... so it hurts... I'm afraid I won't be able to believe in love anymore... and yet I need it

He was born on December 23, 1966, and I was born on May 28, 1968… I don’t want to know what happened? How could I have been so naive… Did I really make a mistake? When will I be able to fully live my life as a woman?? Because for now, and for many years, I no longer have it…

Thank you for the attention that will be paid to me…

Marillion

Hello Marillion,

My message will not be a reading or an astrological analysis (I leave that field open to the dear Lemagicien and Eliana ).

On the other hand, I think you will be able to find some clarification regarding your situation in the same section of “Main Tendue,” in the message titled “Good evening.” I had also described one of my past experiences there.

I just want to tell you not to get discouraged, that every person is interesting, and that your time will come to meet someone who will be available to live a real relationship with you. We must not let ourselves be dragged into these triangular relationships that ultimately only cause harm.
Generally, these men don't know what they want, are unhappy in their relationship at that point, and try to fill a void by exploiting one of your weaknesses.

You need to regain your self-confidence and rebuild yourself morally, dear Marillion. The goal is for you to first learn to love yourself in order to attract the love of others. But never regret having given to others, even if you later feel they did not deserve it… What you give to others is what you also give to yourself…
Regret is nothing but bitterness.

Try to break free from the fatalistic belief that failure is inevitably yours. Life is made up of ups and downs for everyone, and we all have our share of failures. The key is not to “stay” at the stage of failure but to do everything to stay positive and move forward. Love is everywhere; it is a whole, and it does not exist solely in the context of a romantic relationship.

I hope you’ll soon turn the page and devote a little time to yourself. For example, telling yourself "good morning, beautiful!" when you look in the mirror in the morning!

When you feel lonely, take the first step and call some friends, suggest doing things with them? Do you do any activities outside of work?

In any case, don't hesitate to post on the forum when you need to and feel like it. I assure you that this forum is full of wonderful people who are ready to lend a helping hand.

Friendship,
Natou

Good evening, Marillion

It’s hard to say this, but I tell myself I must be uninteresting… or maybe I scare them off… I don’t know.

I was moved reading this sentence; at one point, I felt as though it had been written by my doppelgänger. I’ve had similar thoughts recently. One morning, I got up and told myself, “That’s enough; I’m not going to keep putting myself down or letting others put me down. On the contrary, it’s the people you’ve been around who have hurt you and who are not interesting. It’s up to you to avoid them. Know, Marillion, that you are an interesting person; don’t devalue yourself. As our friend Rolande says, you must learn to love yourself before loving others. Just as I tell my son, you have worth, and you need to be aware of it. So do the same: become aware of your worth and move forward in life with it.”

Like many other women in our situation, we experience an intense emotional void, and the slightest man who smiles at us and pretends to be in a romantic relationship with us makes us believe it, making us think that at last, happiness is here. Unfortunately, this situation is recurring; we regularly encounter this kind of individual who takes advantage of our naivety. Our weakness lies in the fact that we are an open book, due to the intense love we radiate and our naivety, and it is precisely at that moment that men lacking moral integrity trap us in their web.

Now, Marillion, before giving, one must know how to receive. Life is a constant exchange; it is not possible for it to always flow in the same direction.

Now that we know you on the forum, you already exist, at least for those who communicate and will communicate with you, as Rolande and I do. You are no longer alone, and I will be there to help you get through it and regain your confidence.

Tell yourself not only that you are interesting, but also that you deserve to be loved, and I am convinced that you will be. You simply need to do some work on yourself, and somewhere there is a man who will come to you and love you. Stay confident, pray, your time will come.

I wish you lots of courage and hope to hear from you soon with a smile, Marillion

Good evening Marillion,

To start, I would advise you to follow the wise advice of Josy and Natouchka.

I’d be happy to help you by doing a reading through clairvoyance, if you accept. I’ll need 4 numbers between 1 and 52, plus a specific question.

Nice to meet you
The magician.

Hello,

I sincerely thank you for your message... it really moved and comforted me... it's true that somewhere deep down, we feel alone in our situation... and we believe we are the only ones suffering or thinking this way... and we realize that we are just one among so many others...

Your message gives me comfort… but after experiencing so much suffering… because it’s not just romantic… it’s also friendly… we tell ourselves, “I have a problem… what’s wrong with me…” and unfortunately, it’s easier to “negativize” ourselves than to climb back up to the “positive” side of ourselves… and that’s where I am today… it’s true that I don’t love myself much… well, let’s say I’m more angry with myself… because it’s true that I realize everything is my fault… my naivety, my bad choices… my misguided view of human nature… because even though I’m 37… I still believe that people are good, and that’s my naivety, because I don’t analyze the situation correctly… it’s all a learning process… and the hardest part, because it’s easier to go down than to climb back up a slope… I read your advice carefully… and that’s my goal… to learn to love myself again, to tell myself that I’m someone worth it… to love life again… to believe that one day I’ll find my happiness…

Unfortunately, I don’t have many opportunities to go out because I’m alone with two children who take up a lot of my time… I’ve deprived them of a family life… I want to give them everything… everything I can… and it’s true that sometimes it’s at the expense of my life as a woman… I don’t regret it because they give it back to me… they fill me with love… but… we still need other things… that’s just human nature…

That’s what I’m telling myself now: I want to receive… it’s over, I’m not going to “expose” myself like that anymore… but I don’t want to fall into the opposite extreme either… build a shell and put up a barrier…

So if you have any little tips on attitudes I think it would guide me a bit to take the right path…

Thank you again for the attention you have shown me…

Marillion

Hello,

Thank you for your attention, and I will take the liberty of asking you a question…

I would simply like to know if I will finally meet the person with whom I will have a lasting relationship based on sincerity and trust... if you had any little clues I would be happy to do so.

My numbers are 24 28 18 9

Thank you for everything

Marillion

Hello my dear Marillion,

I understand. The first thing to do is to regain self-esteem.
To pity oneself, even unconsciously, is merely another way of delaying the work one will do on oneself.
First, I would like to convey the following message: a person can only be at peace with themselves and love themselves when they begin to accept their own weaknesses, to assimilate them, and to love them. No one is perfect, but isn’t that what makes the beauty of the human being?
When you see or feel that you are once again showing weakness in any relationship, learn to forgive yourself, which is in fact nothing but a lack of love that you fill by accepting that anyone who takes an interest in you enters your life. Perhaps, at first, whether in friendship or in love, you need to show a bit more reserve and keep a bit more distance. This is a way of showing the other person that your world, your life, is precious, and that you will open the door to those who deserve it. In short, people who will share your context while respecting your balance and that of your children, who need a mother who loves and is happy.
Example: As soon as you meet someone, don’t be available the moment that person wants to see you. Probe around, try to figure out who you’re dealing with by taking it slow. Don’t open up completely about your intimate life or what you consider your weaknesses. Show your strong side, the one that now, at 37, knows what it wants and what it no longer wants. This strength and composure will give you the support you need to start a relationship, whether it’s a friendship or a romantic one.
And then, what does it mean to POSITIVE? It’s simply moving from PASSIVITY, daydreaming, and the stance that leaves you as a victim, to ACTION. To positive is to act, to anticipate after having thought in a synthetic manner. In other words, instead of getting bogged down in a situation that will drag on for months in a way that makes you unhappy, you take the initiative and openly ask the other person the questions that are swirling around in your head. You need to look clear-headed, my Marillion, with the serene air of a woman in the prime of her life, at her most seductive, who knows what she wants, and who knows how to say NO, and GET OUT when it’s necessary.
It is only by trying and acting that you will find greater serenity and a strong sense of self-confidence.
And since you have children, it seems to me that your relationship should be even more based on "if it's not this, then no!" (someone who is healthy for your children, who makes you feel happy whether you are together or apart, someone who respects you, is interested in your personality, seeks to get to know you, and lets you get to know them, someone who is mature in their head).
Stop suffering, my dear, try to act, to sort things out. Not finding the right shoe for a certain amount of time does not mean that you are the one who is flawed. It may be that you are not ready yet, that the time has not come. Perhaps you needed to ask yourself these questions to become aware of your worth. And to be aware of it, you need to define the things you enjoy doing even when you are alone: going to the movies with your children, taking a walk in nature with them, admiring a magnificent landscape, enjoying a good meal you prepared for yourself, with a good wine?, treating yourself to a small pleasure by buying a piece of clothing that will make you feel beautiful, changing your haircut or hair color?, taking a nice trip or a weekend somewhere? Listening to beautiful music, enjoying a great book on a subject that fascinates you, finding an activity that would make you come alive and that you could share with your little ones? It could be anything that would not come to my mind... Appreciate life for what it represents in your eyes and not through the gaze or the presence of another, of someone else. Your strength is Marillion.
Happiness is within you. Like the key, the answer. Everything is within you.

I hope I found the right words, as my intention is not to offend you, but for you to realize that you are the one who will decide your strength and your love for yourself. Everyone has this potential; all that remains is to discover it.

I wish you that strength. Remind yourself that there are people in similar situations who don’t even have the good fortune of having a child who makes you forget your pain when they smile at you or snuggle up to you…

Good luck, and above all, don't hesitate to write whenever you feel like it.

It will always be a pleasure to exchange posts.

Friendship,
Natou

Hello Marillion,

I am happy for you if everyone has been able to provide you with the comfort you so much need, and I wish you to be able to smile at life and feel better.

Once again, I felt a great deal of emotion reading your last message. It contains the same parameters as my own experience. I completely understand your suffering, your worries, and your reflections, as they are identical to mine in every respect.

I want to reassure you that there is nothing wrong with you; unfortunately, you have been subjected to unacceptable behavior from people who, in fact, do have something wrong with them. It is important to protect yourself from this kind of individual.

To avoid being betrayed by your friends, there are things you can do to prevent disappointment. Let people who might become future friends come to you, observe them, and listen to them—you learn more by listening. Avoid opening up right away; you can do that a little later. An important point: check whether they are consistent in their behavior toward you. Their friendly gestures should be regular toward you, not on a “yoyo” basis. I sense that you are generous, so make sure people do not take too much advantage of your generosity. Friendship is a permanent, reciprocal exchange, and these exchanges should be filled with love and respect.

I wish you to meet a man worthy of the name who brings you the happiness you deserve. As a mother, we must be careful in choosing the one who will share our life so as not to disturb our children. Therefore, knowing how to protect oneself in order to protect our children. You can use all the parameters described above to help guide your choices. If I may be allowed to give you a friend’s advice, avoid married men. Choose someone who is available. This notion of sharing and knowing that the man we love forces us to reconcile our romantic relationship with their life as a married man bothers me; for my part, I have always shunned this kind of man. It is rare for a man to leave his wife to rebuild with another woman.

Like you, I have the same problem. I am a mother and I dedicate all my time to my child, which means I go out rarely and don't have the opportunity to meet people. To achieve this, we need to find trustworthy people to look after our children, and that is not easy. Sometimes, in certain cities, there are associations that aim to help parents raising their children on their own. It is possible to meet parents (fathers or mothers) in the same situation as yours. Perhaps this would be a solution to get out of the house and have a social life. Tell me what you think and whether there is this kind of association near you.

I hope I have provided you with useful information that can help you.

See you soon and good luck

Oh my God, thank you…

Thank you for putting these beings on my path who have found the words that comfort me… give me hope… hope in life and what will lead me to accept who I am…

You are so right... what a strength of mind... what beautiful souls you have... I read you and I have the impression that angels are speaking to me... I say this sincerely because just yesterday I was feeling alone and misunderstood... (Sunday blues)... I was going to pick up my son from his father's... and in the car, I listened to some music... and strangely enough, it is often in these moments that deep thoughts come to me... I think, and rethink, about certain people who are dear to me and who are no longer in this world... those people who meant so much to me... and I felt alone, very alone in this world... and in those moments I am very close to God... (yes, I have a deep faith, which helps me and has helped me a lot before...) and I asked Him... how is it, Lord, that I cannot find my happiness on this earth... all the people who loved me for who I truly am are with you... am I really that different???

And this morning, your messages… like a miracle… like a call to action… because it’s true that I’ve been passive, lamenting my fate lately… it’s true that I no longer see the small joys life offers me, because I’m so “obsessed” with the chaos of my love life that I can no longer see what matters… and you opened my eyes… well, you challenged me with your words… I need to act! I must no longer sell myself for less, I need to be less spontaneous with my feelings somewhere… it’s all or nothing for me… I’ll have to learn moderation… and let go when I should… I don’t want to exhaust my strength with people who don’t deserve my trust… as you’re right… all I hope is that when I’m in a situation… I’ll be able to act that way… and that my instinct won’t take over… but one thing is sure: I’ll think of your words, and that may be what helps me…

I don’t have an association like you’re talking about, Josy, well, I don’t know of any… I’d need to look into it… it could do me some good and open some doors…

You reached out to me, and I thank you for it…

Marillion

On top of that…

I know I can say things like this without being afraid of seeming like a nutcase… this kind of language in everyday life isn’t always understood or well understood… so I speak as my heart dictates… without restraint or embarrassment… and it feels good because I am certain that you understand the message

I could never tire of thanking you…

Marillion

Dear Marillion,

With all humility, thank you for this message that warms my heart so much.
I will always enjoy reading and writing to you, and we are with you.
We all need to share our doubts sooner or later.
Charge into your well-being!!!

Friendship,
Natou

Hello,
I am writing to you because I no longer know where I stand. I have experienced several deaths in my family over the past few years, including my brother. I had a hard time getting over it, and after that, I was very ill. I thought that after all of that, I would have a bit more luck, but no. I have a husband who no longer has any interest in me (this has also been going on for a few years). I tried to do what I could to improve things between us, but nothing worked; he doesn’t even want to talk or do anything else. I am lost and don’t know what decision to make. I just want to be happy, and I am not. Could you please advise me? Thank you, Thomas

Hello Thomas,

Your message actually saddened me…
If it is true that there is nothing we can do about the loss of a loved one… there are things we can always remedy through God…
Don't lose hope, especially...
Your husband's lack of interest caught my full attention because I suffered from the same thing for four years. I tried everything but to no avail… Having no children yet and feeling helpless in the face of this situation… after two years of reflection, after weighing the pros and cons of a decision of this kind, I ultimately divorced about seven months ago.
I have always had everyday problems, like everyone else. As for my personal life, I met someone who is genuinely interested in me and makes me very happy. I have never regretted one thing… it’s that I didn’t react sooner.
I have never been more glad of anything: having taken my destiny into my own hands…
I would not advise you to act in the same way… I do not know exactly what your problem is and would not presume to push you toward divorce. However, what I wanted to demonstrate is that, apart from death, illness, and so on, there are areas in which we always have the choice whether to suffer or not.
I just wanted to tell you to keep your confidence and never doubt yourself because ONE man has lost interest in you.
Take good care of yourself, Thomas,
Friendship,
Natou

Thank you, it warms my heart, because it’s true that I’m thinking about divorcing, as life is too short, but it’s so hard to regain self-confidence and start over; I have children, which makes it even harder.
But I know I have to move, because I’m going to sink.
Thanks, with friendship, Thomas

Hello again, Thomas…
Yes, I see, your situation is much more difficult if you have children…
I wish you all the courage you need to get better.
I'm here if you need to talk…
Friendship,
Natou

Thank you very much for your support. Thomas

Good morning Natouchka, Marillon, and Josy!

Thank you for these reassuring messages and advice! I take them to heart and will try to make good use of them! Thank you for your generosity!

affectionately,
Barbarella

Hello, I too am eluded by love, yet I have so much love to give, and life is so painful when alone. Is there a man for me on this earth? My numbers are 10, 12, 49, 55. Thank you. Sincerely, MARIE

Hello,
You know, I’ve been through the same thing, maybe even worse than you. I experienced it twice, but the second time was terrible. Still, I kept my hope. You know that the Chinese say that each of us had a soulmate in heaven, and when they came down to earth, they were separated, and they are destined to wander the world until they find each other again. Never lose hope. I finally found the one I truly love. Despite all the problems we have, we still love each other; we are attached to one another. Forget that guy and live your life. He doesn’t even realize how much you might be suffering. Keep your optimism and your hope for a wonderful, rosy tomorrow. May God protect you.

Let me introduce myself, my name is Ismael, and I would like to put my dream interpretation skills to the test on one or more interested people. I don't know who to approach about this matter. Could you help me? Thank you, and happy new year 2007. Best regards.