Concrete love or illusory love?

Hello LadySally,

I met J. at my workplace six months ago.
I just finished my contract and so I have just left J. behind me… But a strong attraction and then feelings for him have developed. Nothing happened since he is not available and I am not completely available either. Everything remained on a subtle, non-verbal level.
I would like to have confirmation on these two points: are the feelings mutual, and will they remain latent or become concrete? In short, are we going to see each other again?

There you go, thank you from the bottom of my heart in advance.

Hello chouabacca,
I don't see any continuity in your relationship because change, distance, and separation mean that it will remain buried deep within you, like your secret garden, but I don't see any other possible evolution (at least not a romantic one).
Best regards
Ladysally

Hello LadySally,

Thank you for your quick reply.
Indeed, that is how I see it too, from a realistic, and therefore mental, standpoint.
My heart still holds on to hope, but I know it’s better this way…

Right after my request here, I was surprised to receive a call from him.
I was hoping for it, but not so quickly. We talked for a long time about everything and nothing, and wished each other good luck for the future. At the end of the conversation, he brought up the idea of meeting again and is waiting to hear from me.

I no longer know what to think, nor how I will handle this, because he does not seem truly aware of my feelings, and yet I have seen so much in his eyes, in contradiction with his enigmatic attitude:
He is constantly inconsistent.

Actually, I can't tell if he feels something for me.
Although it won't change anything in our respective lives, I suppose having that certainty would allow me to move forward, freed from a burden.

Thank you again.
Sincerely.

Dear Chouebacca,
Men, ah! Men! Even when they're not free, even when they don't want a long-term relationship, they put on the act... they blow hot and cold.
Even if he feels something for you, the relationship won't go any further because it will cause more problems than anything else. Unless it suits both of you just to experience something without more.
Kisses

Hello LadySally,

Yes, of course, I also know the nature of men...
I think that if I wanted to be seductive, there would be a chance, but that’s not what I’m looking for, and I believe he’s not either… It wasn’t for nothing that I left at the end of that contract, because I could have stayed, but my feelings and other factors led me to free myself from that situation.

I’m a good person, I hope at least, but if he came to tempt me, I’m not sure I’d be able to resist…
So, if nothing else happens, then it’s better this way,
Even if he still “inhabits” me, I know that time will do its work…

Thanks again for the time you spent with me, and if I have any updates, I’ll keep you posted.
Best regards!

Good evening, dear Chouebacca,
Yes, I know, dear Chouebacca, that you are a good person and that it is not because we have someone else in mind that we are bad. If we no longer get along with our partner, we have the right to want to change and find something better, and I am not throwing stones at you, nor am I judging you. I have been through this phase; things were no longer working with my husband, and I met someone else, then I separated to get together with my friend. What I wanted to say is that it is not the man with whom you will have a secure future.
I hug you very tightly and wish you the best in your life.
Ladysally

Hello LadySally,

Thank you for this kind response... I hope so too, of course, but I no longer really believe it.
Actually, you were right; we haven’t been in touch for over a month now…
I had to tell him how I felt in a message because I couldn't keep it to myself; it was suffocating me!
I had to free myself, and I believe it doesn’t change anything for him anyway…
On the other hand, even though I don’t expect anything from him in a romantic sense since he’s not available, a sign or a response would have been helpful and would have allowed me to know what he truly feels!
I don't even know if he read my message or if he's okay? I'm depressed!!
Can you enlighten me, because it's really hard not to know anything!

Thanks in advance, and I’m sending you a kiss too!