When will my man follow me?

Good evening Marylena

I am Emily, born on August 22, 1983 (female)

I have to start a new job in the Alpes-Maritimes (February 2012).

My friend Vincent works in the public sector in the Paris region (he occasionally travels outside of France for work: just a bit of info in case you find this relevant).
Born on November 23, 1970 (male)

So my question is: will he succeed in getting a transfer to join me in the south, and how long will it take?
Thank you very much

Hello Emily,

There will certainly be a transfer for your friend, probably towards the end of the first semester of 2012; he will still have to travel a lot in the meantime, and as for your new job, you will adapt very easily.

Keep me posted

Have a good day

Hello Marylena

First of all, I thank you for the answer to my question.
Secondly, thank you for your response to a question that was not asked (my fears due to this new job far from home).

And to wrap things up, I will get back to you with some feedback.

And I wish you, from the bottom of my heart, all the happiness you need.

I'm sending you lots of kisses

Thank you again and have a great day

Hi Marylena.

I'm coming to give you some information.

I have been in my position for over a month.

I can't manage everything professionally; in fact, I don't know if I'll succeed in this company.
What do you think?
Is this the time it takes for me to understand this professional field, or should I look elsewhere?

And as for my partner, he's coming back from abroad in 1 week and will be staying with me for a month (during his vacation), but he is still a resident of the Paris region (no transfer is planned).
Do you still see a transfer for him? In the region where I am (Alpes-Maritimes)?
Thank you.
Big kisses

Hello Emily

In terms of your professional life, be patient and you will achieve your goals. It is true that it is difficult, but it takes time for you to adapt. As for your partner's transfer, he will get his transfer, but you still have to wait.

Have a good day

Thank you, Marylena,

But I admit I'm cracking.
If he mutes it, it won't be before September 2013, according to the administration's possibilities.

Do you think he is wrong and will join me before then?

I spend all my time crying because I miss him terribly, even more since he came to spend his vacation with me... I'm afraid of sacrificing my career because I feel empty without him...

Do you have any advice to share with me?

Thank you very much, Marylena, and I’m sorry for these repeated questions…

Hello,

You'll have to wait a bit longer and be patient. I know that the distance is difficult, but he will get that transfer. In any case, I still see an opportunity for him by the end of the year.

Hello,
I’m only seeing your reply today. Thank you.

But apparently our relationship is fading. (He doesn't know if he loves me or not :)))

Do you see the breakup of our relationship?
What's going on in his head?

Thank you, Marylena

Hello,

I see a lot of stress in your friend; he is a bit lost and no longer knows where he stands.
Take your time if you get the chance, because it’s not easy to have a conversation over a distance.
and to put the cards on the table, as they say, to know where you stand in your relationship,
Your love is fading because you are apart. Ask yourself whether it would truly be beneficial for him to come back to you, or whether it would be better to each live your own life. Nothing will prevent you from remaining friends, but it is up to you to listen to your heart.

Marylena

Marylena, thank you

That was exactly what was on his mind; we had a long discussion about it.
As you say, we have put our cards on the table. Distance plays a big part in that. So it is no longer him who is going down, but me who is going up.
I resigned and joined...

Good evening,

Well, I see you've taken the bull by the horns.
In any case, I wish you all the happiness.
And if you are looking for a job, you will find one

Marylena

Good evening,
Yes, that’s exactly the case. I told myself, “Since I’m going to take the chance with him, I might as well give it a try.” Since his transfer wasn’t likely in the near future, I moved in with him.
Regarding work: Following the failure of an interview for another company, the company that had employed me in southern France decided to bring me back to the Paris region.
So I'm crossing my fingers to make my place and my butter... Well, we'll see what I'm capable of doing for this one and what it will bring me.
Everything is frozen, so we'll continue in the next episode. Thank you for everything.
Good evening
I'm kissing you
Emily