Hello, beautiful princess!
You are doing me too much an honor!
Thank you for your vote.
But as you know, it is not the help we provide that brings recognition. You have probably learned this, as I have, during your training: people who are rescued free of charge, simply out of love for humanity and the universe, tend to flee from those who rescued them. This is normal; in the presence of the person who helped them, a veil over their weaknesses has been lifted, and they often feel a sense of "inferiority," or even "shame," at having shown that side of their personality. Not to mention that free help is often poorly received, or does not bring the same benefit as help provided in exchange for "consideration"; it has no "value."
It may seem stupid, but that's how it is.
Moreover, Mikao Usui taught us this after making the mistake of bringing Reiki to everyone he believed needed it, only to be later blamed by them for being better off before. That is why we are taught that one should never perform a gratuitous act.
And manufacturers and retailers also know how important the value of the merchandise is in the minds of buyers: they know that a beautiful dress that could be priced at €5 will sell less well if it is displayed at €30!
But that is off topic and I probably shouldn't have written it here, on a volunteering site, it was just to give a rational explanation, nothing more.
On the other hand, people prefer those who bring them laughter and dreams and carry them off into the clouds, rather than realistic people who are “too sensible” (Laugh!) and tell them the realities of their lives to their face.
I am not a dream seller or an illusionist, and I don't tell funny stories either, so I don't expect any recognition.
If my modest contribution to this site has helped some of you, all the better; I am delighted for them.
If that's not the case, what does it matter?
What matters is having taken part.
And who do we most often help?
Not necessarily others, but oneself.
We must not delude ourselves:
Even the most selfless acts are not quite as selfless as they seem.
There is always some kind of compensation:
- the satisfaction of having succeeded (in the best of cases),
- that of having surpassed oneself, of having pushed one's limits
- that of having advanced in one's own knowledge
- that of having simply tried
- …
In any case, it was first beneficial to ourselves before it was beneficial to others. It is a step in our journey.
By the way, who are the participants on the forum?
Only passersby who come to take what they need at a certain point in their lives, when they need it to move forward.
We must be clear that this should only be a step, a crossroads.
Then, we go elsewhere, further along our path. And then, if we took the wrong road, we may come back.
Even if it may seem sad no longer to see pseudonyms to which we have become virtually attached, I think that on the contrary we should rejoice at no longer seeing them, or at least seeing them less often: this is the best thank-you, this is the applause of silence; it means that the site has allowed them to move forward, to get out of the rut in which they had become mired.
I myself come less often and spend much less time on the forum than I used to. It allowed me to understand a part of myself and to move past a stage in my life. And it is only natural to want to move on to other things now.
It’s just that I’ve met extraordinary people here, and it’s mainly for these virtual friends who will remain in my heart that I continue to make occasional appearances.
Oops, I wrote a whole journal! Sorry!
Cheers to you.
