To love and to love!

Hi,

And yes, the big word!

But here’s the thing: with the absence of the French language:

I love my child,
I love my friends,
I like to walk in the woods,
I love my husband or lover,
I love chocolate!

Hence the difficulty in finding one's place in love.

From Arnaud Desjardins’ book “In Search of Self,” I have extracted this short passage:

Most of the time, “I love” means “I need to be loved,” and “I love you,” addressed to another being, means “love me.” This kind of love is merely an emotion. It is a love that involves fear, namely the fear of not being reciprocated, and when this need to be loved is not satisfied, violence, aggressiveness, and hatred appear. What is ordinarily called love is not a feeling but an emotion whose opposite is hatred. This hatred is more or less consciously accepted, more or less repressed, because it is one of the emotions most universally condemned by morality, but it is no less at work everywhere in the world, and increasingly so. As long as the ego persists, that is, the well-established distinction between the self and the non-self, and as long as this ego
is subject to the alternation of hope and fear, that this ego is subject to the ever-active mechanism of I like / I don’t like, I like / I don’t like, the word love designates only a desire. But, since it is the same word that is used to designate true love, one can in good faith find oneself in confusion and think that one is experiencing a deep, noble, even religious feeling, when in fact one is simply experiencing an emotion.

It is a pity that we so casually misuse a verb that would be sublime if it were used in the sense of spirituality.

Yours sincerely.

(Thank you, Lolly, for the link that allowed me to discover this book among others, all of which are very rich in lessons)

My dear friend
and I would go beyond

Often, we look at ourselves in a mirror.

we are well-groomed, free of signs of aging, and capable of being attractive, etc…

if for a few moments we became aware of this beauty that grows within us, beyond appearances, beyond the rupture we create within ourselves

we would discover the word CREATION

to be the sole creator of one's own being

simply

and learn not to hate yourself for having failed

This difference between what we believe we are capable of evoking and the reality of what we evoke by loving each other

Thank you, Mom, for this reflection.

And well beyond that

a love message hidden in your humble desire to help

The axis is there, and stepping on it out of fear will change nothing about its desire to be born... all our earthly life...

I'm hugging you

lollipop

To answer Mamyol very quickly:
I would say that we can just as well say “I love you” and add “love me,” because indeed, when saying “I love you,” we expect the other person to feel the same emotional intensity toward us…

I quote this for someone in particular who will recognize it: “love is enough for love”... by Kahlil Gibran... ;)
It is a sentence that stands on its own.

For me, to love is to be able to give the other person the best of ourselves, even if it means letting them go far away from us… if that is their way of being happy…

Hello friends!

Lolly, as always, with different words and a different perspective, our ideas converge, but we already knew that. (Perhaps we must have been very close somewhere in a past life.)

Malergo, I am delighted that when we give the verb "to love" to an emotional partner, we share the same point of view.
For what kind of love would be a chain?
Love should not be a dependency; on the contrary, it must be lived in respect for each person's freedom.

I will add this other definition of love (but there are so many!):

True love does not come from an attempt to remedy our poverty by becoming dependent on someone else, but from developing our own inner wealth and maturity.
So we have so much love to give that we naturally attract lovers to us. (Zen tarot)

Best regards

To get a head start on the subject, one of the cards of the Keys of Wisdom:

You can love the other by completely forgetting yourself, but be careful that it is not an illusion.
You are often blinded by the illusion of Love, and that is why you cannot always perceive the essence of Love.

If you give while forgetting yourself, that is, forgetting to move forward, you will soon no longer be able to do so, because you will have nothing left to give; you will have completely dried up in this giving.

So much love to you on your journey!

It’s just that I already feel completely drained. And even worse, insensitive.

Another key to wisdom:

Best regards